I don't feel that my boyfriend should be talking to his ex girlfriend he was with for four years. They broke up a mere months before we got together. I've caught him asking her if she thinks they'll get back together and once he said he loves her. I think he should just eliminate her from his life all together.
Fact. A man who still loves his ex, can never be happy with another girl. Ever. Sounds to me like the only wall between those two is you. Be honest to yourself, and dont let them fool you around. The fact that he has a girlfriend makes him a forbidden fantasy, something like forbidden fruit... You notice this situation and try being better than her, by being understanding about things you dont really understand... and by putting up with things you know you shouldnt accept. Like him saying that he loves her. Hes not over her. But he would never admit that to you. So let him free and let him be happy even if its not with you. At least youll feel relieved. trust me.
I can't go one way or the other. I agree that if he is with you, that he shouldn't be talking to her, but at the same time I agree with what Mringerike is saying that given what he is telling you, he is with you because there is a reason he can't be with her.
If he doesn't need to get rid of her from his life, he needs to get rid of you, one or the other, if he chooses her, you really had nothing to lose anyway, except maybe time.
If he doesn't need to get rid of her from his life, he needs to get rid of you, one or the other, if he chooses her, you really had nothing to lose anyway, except maybe time.