Karinttt   95 days 2 hours 50 min. ago

Have you even asked your sister and her family for "help"? Are you sure, you're just not the "suffering put-upon" type? You need to have a serious talk with your husband about "his" messes. Because of you not confronting him, I'm doubting that you have confronted the rest of your family. And, that includes your mother. Is she "asking" you to drive her places every day, or just on Friday's? If it's only the one day, you should be adult enough to have a home clean enough that you're not in any danger of being cited by the Health Dept. However, you whole complaint tends to lead me to believe you are totally into being a "victim" and I doubt seriously that the situation is as one-sided as you seem to claim. You need to "talk" resolution with the rest of your family instead of conjplaining behind their backs. I'll bet your sister, your husband, and the rest of your family don't have a clue that you're this put out over their lack of help. Oh, and your mother probably hasn't got a clue either. How many diapers a day can one baby use that it takes up serious "time" in a world of disposable diapers? Baffles the you-know-what out of me. I think you're a chronic complainer.....

Jrnyfn   359 days 12 hours 52 min. ago

Ok I here what you are saying Here is the 411. My mother didn't just give birth to me. There are three of us . I am not an only child here. My mother may have given birth to me , but she has given birth to three others as well. My sister works at a school and the days that she has off she could help my mother out if I am not available . If I get ill, and my mother needs to go food shopping, then she will not get to the store until I am better. So how selfish can that be? I have to be dying and they would still expect me to help her. I know that I have to help my mother but you have to realize at what expense, my health. If somethinng happens to me, then my son is without a mother. Another thing for your 411, if I leave my child in dirthy diapers, they would come and take my son away from me for abuse. and neglect.
Well here is the story about the mess. My husband leaves cups , bills , whatever all on the floor of our bedroom. Toothpaste is in the sink and food left out . When I get home, I clean it so that my home is not bug ridden. If you think that I should leave food all over and attend to my aging mother , who also has three other children, you have to be crazy. Then after I clean my house within 24 hours it back the same way
I am getting calls from her because she needs to get her hair done, doctor appointments. I drive her every Friday and she call me to help out with the littlest things . I also have a sister, and two nieces that live next door to her. My poor mother has to put out her own garbage , because nobody will do it . If I am not there , my mother will do it . So I feel as though I am an only here . My mother bought the house near my sister so that she could help out . My siblings might work, but not for my mother.,

massnomore   396 days 23 hours 4 min. ago

i agree with corgipup, be glad your mom is still alive.

and again, tell us, how 3 people mess up a house to be cleaned day & night? makes no sense here.

corgipup   398 days 8 hours 44 min. ago

Listen, sister--

Be glad your mother is alive!!

The hell with your siblings. One day you will be glad that you helped your mother. And if you're lucky, your child will take care of you when you are your mother's age..

Just think--when your mother goes to heaven, you will have no regrets about her. Your siblings--if they are human--will because they have neglected her.

Another thing: how can one child and a husband mess up a house so it has to be cleaned up "day and night"?

What is your priority: your aging mother, who gave you birth and changed your dirty diapers, or a clean house!!!!????